Let's talk about love bite

First of all let us know what love bite is. Love bite or hickey is a red/crimson mark on skin of your partner which appears because you suck, kiss or gently bite your partner during those intense moments.
When you love someone so much that you can't resist , you generally say i will eat you. Eating your partner because of your feeling of love for her makes a love mark or love bite.
Love bite shows that you were in that phase of love making where you lost control over yourself and your partner was complimenting you too. Believe me love mark donot cause pain. Infact it give slight pain which may be referred to as soft pain and this gives triggers to love making bringing your partner even more close to you.
Wildness or being naughty in love making is always a plus point for ultimate satisfaction. This may be achieved if you get away with your shyness and you want to live those close intimate moments.
Here are some tips for reaching that moment that you lost control over yourself and give love bite to your loved one.. 
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1) Starting the love play by being naughty sets a platform.You may tie a cloth over her eyes and hold her hands tightly and kiss, lick her allover. Believe me she will become crazy and get naughty too.
2)Love making games, rubbing ice on body of your partner can even ignite the lovemaking and you may start loosing your control.
3)  Soft romantic music and foreplay are essential before you get to that level that you give love bite.
4) When you find yourself to that level that you both have lost control over yourself and want the ultimate closeness, play with each other's private parts. I tell u this will make the feelings that intense that you will feel to get one without waiting further.
5)Now its the perfect time for giving love bite. She wants to be eaten by you now. So bite her gently either by sucking her hard or slightly with your teeth. This soft pain will be irresistible. Love bite can be given on neck, breast behind ears, on thighs as these are most sensitive parts of her body.
6)No need to tell what will happen now as you might be one already and I am sure you might have reached that level of satisfaction which gives that so called ultimate feeling.
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Enjoy being wild.. Give her a love bite!!!!
Love life.. Live life!!!

Is your relationship happy and strong:Remember the following tips

Healthy and happy relationship requires a little effort from both sides. It is not immediate, you have to give time and effort to make it strong and to develop bonding between the two. Bonding grows strong and understanding between two emerges if you remember the following points always in mind..
Point 1:Always be open for communication: Communication plays vital role in any relationship whether it is husband wife, girlfriend boyfriend. The more you communicate, easier are the things and your closeness will automatically increase. Communication includes both speaking i. e telling and listening. Only speaking is also harmful and only listening and keeping things in mind also ruin relationship.
So communicate your likes, dislikes, needs, anything...
Point 2: Always have respect for each other: Respect doesn't mean here saying namaste or greeting, it means respecting each other feelings and moods. Never be abusive and nor play with others feelings. The more you will pay respect, the stronger will be bond and happy will be life.
Point 3: Spend time together: Spending quality time together is important. Quality time means time in which you watch movie together, go for dates, freely talk, be naughty, walk hand in hand etc.. This time increases inclination of your partner towards you.
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Point 4 : Being apart for sometime is also important: Being too close to someone always may prove bad for relationships sometime as you may be taken for granted and your value may decrease. Little separation helps other to realise your importance and brings you even more closer to your loved one
Point 5: Appreciate each other : Everybody has something good which you might admire. Don't hesitate appreciating your partner. It is a trigger for any relationship.
Point 6: Be positive in attitude and ignore all negatives: Nobody or no circumstances are perfect, try to remain positive for everything and seeing the positiveness in everything. Ignore or take negatives lightly, this will boost the relationship to next level.
Point 7:Intimate moments.. I mean sex is very essential:These intimate moments or having sex are important and makes relationships more strong and shows commitment for each other. Spend and live these moments and life will be worth loving..
Point 8: Never make comparisons: Making comparisons among yourself or between your partner or someone can adversely affect your relationship. Remember we all are uniqueness. Fall in love with this uniqueness of your partner. Believe me life will be like heaven.
Love your relationship..Live your relationship!!!

सुहागरात के ख़ास दिन के लिए आप तैयार है - ध्यान रखिए ये बातें

सुहागरात के ख़ास दिन के लिए आप तैयार है - ध्यान रखिए ये बातें

सुहागरात का दिन सभी के जीवन मैं ख़ास होता है और अधिकतर लोग सुहागरात के बारे में सोचकर बहुत घबरा जाते है.  शादी अपने आप में इतना बड़ा आयोजन है जिसमे सब रिश्तेदार, जान्ने वाले , मिलने वाले , रीती रिवाज सभी दूल्हा दुल्हन को सँभालने पड़ते है और उसके बाद ये बहुत ही ख़ास दिन सबके जीवन में आता है. अधिकतर बार इस दिन की तैयारी में दो से दस महीने तक लग जाते है और शादी के ख़ास दिन की तैयारी की जाती है जिसमे पैसा पानी की तरह बहाया जाता है. 

शादी से पहले आजकल लड़के लड़कियां आपस में बहुत  बातें करते है और मिलते भी है. सुहागरत पर बात करना  अभी भी हमारे  देश में अभी भी बहुत मुश्किल है. सेक्स एजुकेशन भी सिर्फ नाम के लिए ही है हमारे देश में. लोग अपने दोस्तों सहलियों से भी खुलकर इस  विषय पर बात नहीं कर पाते, उनके मन में बहुत से प्रश्न होते है.

आप अपने प्रश्न इस ब्लॉग  के कमेंट सेक्शन में पूछ सकते है

ये दिन बहुत ही ख़ास होता है ,इस्को और खास बनाना पति और पत्नी दोनों की बराबर की जिम्मेदारी होती है. हम यहाँ पर कुछ बातें बता रहे है , इन बातों का ध्यान रखें और अपना दिमाग भी लगाएं की कैसे हम इस दिन को ख़ास बना सकते है. अपने सुझाव कमेंट में लिखे या हमें मेल करे riturai.lifeguru@gmail.com .

-  एक दुसरे को जाने  - शादी से पहले एक दूसरे से बातें करें, उनके बारे में जाने। एक दुसरे की पसंद ना पसंद का जानना बहुत जरूरी है। शादी से पहले  प्यार से सम्भंदित किताबें और फिल्म्स की बातें करें, फिल्मो के रोमांटिक गानो ,रोमांटिक दृश्य इत्यादि की बाते करे। इन सब बातों को आप अपने सुहागरात के दिन बातों की शुरुआत करने के लिए  कर सकते हो और आसानी से एक दुसरे से बात कर सकते हो. एक बात का ध्यान बहुत जरूरी  है की शादी से पहले सेक्स की बात डायरेक्टली बिलकुल ना करे , इससे आपस में तनाव हो सकता है.

- पुराना सब भूल जाओ - ये आपके जीवन की नई  शुरुआत है इसमें आप पुराना अगर कुछ है तो उस्सको तुरंत भूल जाओ. अब आपकी शादी हो रही है , आपकी जिम्मेदारी आपके पार्टनर के लिए है, सभी की पार्टनर से बहुत उमीदें होती है और शादी पर दो परिवारों की जिन्दी निर्भर करती है, पुराना सब भूलना आपके और आपके परिवारों के जीवन के लिए बहुत खुशीआं लाएगा.

- एनर्जी बचा कर रखें - शादी बहुत बड़ा आयोजन है , इससमे बहुत काम होते है पर जबरदस्ती अपनी ऊर्जा बर्बाद ना करें, इस्को सुहागरात के लिए बचा के रखें, जबरदस्ती डांस ना करें, घूंमें ना, शराब का सेवन ना करें इत्यादि। सुहागरात जीवन में अधिकतर लोगो के एक बार आती है, इस्की महत्त्व को समझे। 

- खुद को तैयार करें - सुहागरत के लिए खुद को तैयार करें , बॉडी मसाज कराएं फेसिअल कराएं , शरीर  के बाल भी हटवाएं , सुहागरात से पहले एक दो महीने अपने शरीर पर एक्स्ट्रा समय लगाएं। 

- बात की शुरुआत की तैयारी करें - सुहागरात पर बात कैसे शुरू करें ये आपको पूरी तैयारी के साथ सोचना होगा. हिंदुस्तान में और जहाँ भी दुनिया में हिंदी बोली जाती है अधिकतर लोग इस लाइन से शुरू करते है " सुहागरात है घूंघट उठा रहा हूँ मैं " आप भी इससे शुरू कर सकते है, आप और कोई गाना सोच सकते है, आपने शादी से पहले अगर किसी विषय पर बात की है तो उससे शुरू कर सकते है.

- कुछ किताबें पड़ें - सेक्स से सम्भंदित कुछ किताबे जरूर पड़ें, कामसूत्र अगर पड़ सकते है तो वो पड़ें, वैसे तो कामसूत्र में अलग अलग पोसिशन्स के बारे में बताया  गया है पर वो आपको ये समझाती है की सेक्स के लिए आपको कितनी एनर्जी चाहिए और आप क्या क्या सोच सकते है

First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it? 

- एक दुसरे की आँखों में देखे - एक दुसरे की आँखों में खो जाए, किस करें, आँखे गहरा सागर होती है सुहागरात में उनमे डूबना जीवन भर याद रहता है, शादी के कुछ साल बाद यही आँखे डरावनी हो जाती है इससलिए जब तक ना डराएं तब तक उनमे डूबे रहो. शरीर के अलग अलग हिस्सों को किस करें और स्पर्श करे और अपने पार्टनर्स के करीब आने की कोशिश करें.

- धीरे धीरे शुरुआत करें - दुनिया का हर व्यक्ति जब पहली बार सुहागरात में होता है तो घबराया होता है, ऐसा नहीं है ये सिर्फ आपके साथ हो रहा है, इससलिए बिलकुल भी ना घबराएं , जल्दबाजी कुछ ना करें, जरूरी नहीं है सुहागरात पर सेक्स हो, सेक्स के लिए पूरा जीवन है आपके पास. सुहागरात पर  जरूरी है की आप एक दुसरे से खुल जाएं और आगे के लिए तैयार रहे. एक दूसरों को स्पर्श करें , चुम्मा ले, एक दुसरे को गले लगे, नजदीकियां बढ़ाएं और एक दुसरे के आगोश में खो जाएं।

First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it? 
- दोस्तों की सलाह बिलकुल ना मानें - अधिकतर लोग सुहागरात के बारे में अपने खास दोस्तों से चर्चा कर लेते है और वो उनको बहुत सी अजीब गरीब सलाह दे देते है, सुहागरात ऐसा कोई हव्वा नहीं है वो केवल जीवन के एक नए दौर की शुरुआत है. आपको केवल इस नए दौर में ख़ुशी ख़ुशी प्रवेश करना है, सेक्स तो आपके साथ जीवन भर है उसको लेकर बहुत ज्यादा उत्साहित या हतोत्साहित होने की कोई आवश्यकता नहीं है, उसको बिक्लुल सामन्य लेकर चले और किसी भी फ़ालतू की सलाह को ना माने।

कुछ चीजे जो जरूर करें -

- अपने पार्टनर्स के  शरीर के सभी पार्ट्स को छुए
- टाइट से गले लगाएं अपने पार्टनर को
- लिप किस करें बहुत देर तक
- शरीर के अलग अलग हिस्सों पर किस करें
- फालतू की बातें करें, जोक करें और उस पर जोर से हंसे
- एक दुसरे की बहुत तारीफ करें
- रूम की अच्छे से सजावट कराएं
- कुछ गिफ्ट्स दे  एक दुसरे को
- प्रोटेक्शन का प्रयोग करे -  बच्चा जीवन का बहुत बड़ा निर्णय है वो सोच समझ कर ले उसके लिए पति और पत्नी थोड़ा समय ले. शादी के बाद कम से कम एक वर्ष का समय जरूर ले.

First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it? 

आपको अगर कुछ और प्रश्न है तो कमेंट में पूछे मैं आपको जवाब दूँगी. 

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Points to keep in mind while you are dating

When you go out for a date, you are full of excitement and you want to make the day(night to be more precise) memorable. There are some points and precautions that you should always keep in mind while going out.
1)Selection of place: Selection of the place where you gonna go for date is most important. You always have fear of being seen by your knowns so select a place away from crowd. Secondly if the place does not have more people, you can easily hang around and enjoy with your loved one.
2)Grooming and dressing up is important: Proper grooming up is important and how you dress also plays important role. Don't dress up too formally but being too casual is also not required. Wear jeans and decent t-shirt. Don't get funky.
3)Plan candle light dinner with soft romantic music:Candle light dinner with your loved one can be exotic and believe me females love romantic soft music. Combination of exotic food and music can be very erotic and you both will get carried away.
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Points to keep in mind while you are dating

4)Dance together if possible: Dancing together helps in coming close and your touch on her hand, shoulder can excite her. Go for slow dancing and look in her eyes as much as possible.
5)Praise her: Appreciate the dress she is wearing. If your girl like flirting, don't hesitate flirting too. Girls are naughty and likes if there man gets naughty
6)Make arrangement of wine or drink of her choice: You can offer her a drink but don't force if she refuses. Let her do whatever she wants.

7)Bring a gift for her if possible: Girls like gifts and if the gifts are personalised it adds cherry to cake. Personalised gifts are better than expensive gifts.
8)Give a soft kiss on her forehead holding her hands to start with:Dont be in hurry for what is behind your mind(you know what I mean to say.. Sex) Give time to get mood to be set.
9)Gradually let the mood get set but never force: Gradually and slowly if you find your girl is showing interest try to come close. I tell you never force her. Forcing can make end of relationship. If she refuses there will be next time soon. Remember this Funda.
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10) Decide the room in advance and have precautions ready with you: If the mood is set of both of the you place should be previously been thought of and have  precautions ready with you so that you can have safe sex.
Enjoy dating... Love life.. Live life!!!

First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it?

Suhaagraat is the day which is filled with number of emotions, nervousness and feelings after romantic courtship phase, hectic rituals, marriage ceremony, attending guests etc.
You might have spend good time during your courtship phase by talking on phone, chatting, sending messages, dating etc but first night is a day on which everyone is nervous.We all know sex education is not common in our country but we must be aware of certain facts before this special night.
Here are the tips which one must go through before that very special day of life
1. Make sure you know about your partner :Familiarity and knowing about your partner will make you easy to get into your first night. So it is essential to know about your partners likes dislikes etc. Try reading some romantic book together followed by discussion on it without getting into sexual talks during your courtship time to know each other. This will make your first night exciting as you can start with discussion.
2. This is new start of your life so feel fresh physically and mentally : If you have some past, girlfriend/boyfriend, breakups, relationship etc, prepare yourself above all that. Forget it and be as fresh like a bud.
3.Groom yourself as looks matter: In hectic schedule don't forget gromming yourself. Even get a good body massage and facial and all so that you look shining and attractive. Also cleaning private parts is also necessary.
4. Have ample of energy : Don't get exhausted before this big task. Try taking ample rest before getting close otherwise fatiqueness can make things worse. If you are really tired, don't try to have sex, kiss, hug, cuddle, communicate and sleep without clothes hugging each other and come close in morning or later.
First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it? 

5. Prepare yourself to initiate the conversation:Conversation is essential before getting close so be ready to initiate. Dirty jokes, being naughty is always appreciated by girls so don't be short of words. These words of yours will arouse your partner.
6. Read good content on sex (kamasutra) to have ample knowledge : Before going on big day you should be aware of all about it. Try reading quality content on same. Avoid porn sites for gaining knowledge.
7. Don't feel nervous in making scenerio sensual: Try touching, rubbing, kissing each other to arouse your partner desire to have sex. You have to take a lead so that your partner overcomes her shyness easily.
8.Try looking into her eyes: Looking on eyes while speaking can do magic. Eyes never lie and always let you know when she is ready.
9. Seek advice from your friends: You can ask your experienced  friends to share about their day. This knowledge on back of your mind can help you a lot.
First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it? 

10. Try to create the scene before wedding night: Try being romantic before the big day by not missing any chance to touch her on her shoulders, hands by coming bit close to her(obviously not on private parts). This will make your task easier on the big day as feeling will be ignited from before only.
11. Be silly, get into silly conversation, laugh: To get close best Funda is being silly as laughter can bring closeness very easily. So crack silly jokes. Do bit of silly things.
12. Hug her tighter than ever before, kiss her hard:This will surely show the signs what you want and arouse her feelings too and she will mentally be prepared.
13. Don't forget to give compliments: Giving compliments to your spouse about her bridal dress, looks, hair can arouse her. Every girl likes to be praised.
14. Be ready with gifts for each other:  Exchanging gifts can motivate each other. Apart from traditional mangalsutra for girls, you can opt for some funny ones as well. That will be a surprise and lead to excitement.
15. Be ready with some sensual game too: If nothing else is working or if you want it to be different playing sensual games can set the stage on fire.
16. Be ready with precaution if you want to use(condom or whatever) : Be prepared with the arrangements if you come close. It should be placed at place which is easily approachable and does not cause delay.
17. Have some romantic music, videos downloaded in your mobile: You should be ready with ample stuff which can motivate each other depending on your partner's choices.
18. Get your room decorated: Room decorated with rose petals spreads fragrance and romantic vibes which makes everything happen without much effort.
First night(Suhaagraat):Are you ready for it? 

I think you are ready now for your big day. These small tips will let you have most pleasurable time with your partner.
Enjoy it.. Live every moment of it...
Love life.. Live life!!!!
For more discussion, please leave comment.. I will get back to you. You can also drop mail on ratirai.lifeguru@gmail.com

पति पत्नी और उनके आपसी रिश्ते

पति पत्नी एक गाडी के दो पहियों की तरह होते है. जैसे गाडी एक पहिया घराब हो तो चल नहीं पाती उसी तरह सुखी  आप व्यतीत कर सकते है जब दोनों पहिये संतुष्ट हो और खुश हो.
चलो आज हम बताते है की पति पत्नी के आपसी रिश्ते कैसे  होने चाहिए जिससे जिंदगी सुखमय हो..
पति पत्नी में आपसी समझ होनी बहुत जरुरी है जो उनके रिश्ते का आधार बनता है।  अगर पति पत्नी में समझ होगी तो कोई भी निर्णय लेना कठिन नहीं होगा। समझ आती है आपसी प्यार और देखभाल से, अगर आपस में प्यार होगा , एक दूसरे के लिए कदर होगी तो वक़्त के साथ समझ उत्पन्न होगी.
आपसी प्यार बढ़ाने के लिए साथ समय बिताना बहुत ही जरुरी है. साथ में बाते करना, कभी गंभीर कभी चुलबुली, कभी दूरदर्शी कभी प्यार भरी बातें , इन्ही बातों के जरिये आपसी सम्बन्ध और मजबूत होते है।  साथ में जितना समय बिताएंगे पति और पत्नी उतनी ही निकटता बढ़ेगी। कुछ ऐसे पल भी आएंगे जब तकरार होगी और कभी प्यार ही प्यार में निकटता बढ़ेगी और वो हसीं पल भी आएंगे.
एक दुसरे के साथ टहलना, छेड़खानी करना, चुम्बन देना, सहलाना और एक हो जाना , ये आधार बन जाते है आपसी रिश्ते के.
सुखमय आपसी रिश्ते के लिए इन बातों पर अवश्य ध्यान दे। 

१) हमेशा बात करे चाहे कितनी भी लड़ाई हो , कोई भी परेशानी हो या कोई भी जरुरत हो : जितना खुलकर आप अपने साथी से बात करेंगे उतना ही आप दोनों में निकटता आएगी। बात परिवार, प्यार, बच्चे सुख दुःख किसी भी बारे में हो सकती है

२) एक दूसरे का ध्यान रखे  : जितना ज्यादे आप एक दूसरे की परवाह करेंगे उतनी ही निकटता बढ़ेगी।  एक दूसरे के सुख दुःख , मानसिक स्तिथि को समझकर फिर अपनी प्रतिक्रिया दे ,
पति पत्नी और उनके आपसी रिश्ते

३) एक दूसरे के परिवार को उचित सम्मान दे : अक्सर देखा गया है की ज्यादेतर झगडे मन मुटाव परिवार को लेकर होते है , एक दूसरे के परिवार को उचित सम्मान देंगे तो आपके सम्बन्ध में निकटता आएगी

४) एक दूसरे की प्रशंसा करे, तोहफे दे और कोई भी छोटे से छोटे ख़ास मौके को मनाये : जिंदगी में बहुत ख़ास  दिन होते है उन दिनों को मनाये , साथ वक़्त बिठाये ,तोहफे दे ( जरुरी नहीं है की महंगे ही हो तोहफे) , कुछ अच्छा हो तो प्रशंसा करना न भूले।
पति पत्नी और उनके आपसी रिश्ते

) रात को बिना बात करे न सोये : चाहे कितना भी झगड़ा हुआ हो कभी बिना बात करे रात में न सोये।  Gudnight या अगर I love you बोलते हो तो हमेशा बोलकर ही सोये।

६) साथ में वक़्त बिताये : हफ्ते में, १५ दिन में या महीने में पति पत्नी परिवार से अलग वक़्त अकेले में जरूर बिताये। हो सके तो रोज टहलना शुरू करे , कभी कभी बाहर खाना खाने जाए , घूमने जाए इत्यादि।  बच्चो के साथ साथ एक दूसरे को भी महत्त्व दे।  साथ में खिलखिलाये , मूवी देखे , रोमांटिक बाते करे और एक दूसरे की इच्छाओं की कदर करे।

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Sexual desires:Men V/s Women

If we talk about the intensity of sexual desire in man as compared to woman, there lies huge difference between two.
Here I want to quote that sexual desire keep varying with age, time, work pressure and responsibilities one has.
1. But if we speak in general, sexual desires in man are more than that in woman. Woman desires are hidden and she generally cover a curtain upon them in name of shyness.
2. Man has high level of daily sexual desire and masturbate to satisfy them. Woman on daily basis don't have desire to have sex but if aroused her desire to have sex is intense than that of man and she is unstoppable then.
3. Woman are more emotional creature as compared to man and prefer romance over sex. Man loves sex above everything.
4. Woman loves foreplaying, kissing, hugging, cuddling and ultimately having sex. She wants to gradually grow up the feeling and then go for sex. On the other hand man loves to have sex more than any other activity. He is satisfied if he had sex whether foreplay, kissing etc preludes it or not.
5. Woman loves spending time with the partner before having sex and sex is not always on their mind if they are close to their partner. Generally, man have sex on their mind from very beginning of they are in romantic mood.
6. Man enjoy watching porn sites and sex whereas woman prefer romantic content.
7. Woman love the soft intense moments and man enjoy the show of their power.
Whatever the sexual desire are there in man or woman, ultimately they both aim getting higher level of satisfaction so they must respect each others desires and try to fulfill their partners need of body. Try spending quality time with each other and have long sex experience for ultimate satisfaction. Open up with your partner and tell about your desires and your likes so that the other one can take care of them. Don't be shy.. The more you open up, the more satisfaction you will get.
So.. Enjoy having sex!!!

Love life... Live life!!!
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First love of life..

First love is the most amazing feeling of life. It is feeling which is very hard to describe in words. When one meet someone whom he is infatuated to and his feelings become intense for her and he cannot even think of leaving her, it is love of life.
If one is in first love his emotions are on cloud nine and he is flying like a bird.
First love is most innocent and pious feeling of life and it is the phase which can never be repeated.
1. It is the first time in your life that you are that close to someone: First love is that time in life when you are intimate to someone, you have special feelings for someone, you cuddle, you kiss someone for first time.
2. It is at age when you generally are free from responsibilities: Generally first love is at an age where you are carefree, free from any pressure of earning or family. At this age you can spend hours with your loved one.
3. It is most pious feeling: First love is the pious feeling as you have never seen the consequences of break up till now. For you every word by your loved one is as pure and you innocently believe everything
4. You start feeling more secure after meeting your first love: After you are in a relationship, your inner insecurities go off and you have firm and stronger belief in yourself that I can do everything in life.
5. Your future goals and dreams start linking to it:Once you find your love you start linking all your future hopes, plans and life around your loved one as she is most important to you now.
6. Last but not least You experience kissing, holding hand, cuddling, sweet whispering, hugging, walking hand in hand to opposite sex for the first time so that feeling is different, intense and special.
Amazing is the feeling of first love.. Its really special and it can never be forgotton. 

So... Love life... Live life!!!
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पति और पत्नी के रिश्ते शादी के एक साल बाद

जब शादी होती है तो सभी लोग बड़े खुश रहते है, शायद शादी के तुरंत बाद आदमी पत्नी के प्रेम में पूरी  दुनिया को भूल जाता है और शादी के एक साल बाद उस्सको लगता है की अब तो ये रोज की बात हो गई और शादी में नयापन ख़त्म होने लगता है।

शादी में नयापन और उत्तेजना बनाए रखने के लिए पति पत्नी दोनों को कुछ बातो का ध्यान रखना चाहिए

- शादी के बाद जो प्रेम उत्पन्न हुआ था जैसे बाहर घूमने जाना, खाना खाना, पत्नी की घर के कामो में मदद करना, पति के घर आते ही उससे प्रेमपूर्वक बाते करना इत्यादि को पहले जैसे बनाए रखना चाहिए।

- हर व्यक्ति में कुछ अच्छाइया होती है और कुछ बुराइयां , शादी के एक साल में पति और पत्नी दोनों एक दूसरों की बुराई और अच्छाई से अवगत हो जाते है, दोनों को उनका सम्मान करना चाहिए, किसी भी दुसरे के सामने उनका मजाक नहीं बनाना चाहिए और ना ही कभी आपसी बहस में उनको सामने लाना चाहिए।

-   पति और पत्नी दोनों को एक दुसरे के परिवार का उपयुक्त सम्मान करना चाहिए , बहुत बार ऐसा होता है की पति पत्नी का झगड़ा उनके परिवार के सम्मान को लेकर ही होता है , पति  पत्नी को अगर ऐसा कुछ हो तो आपस में बात करनी चाहिए और उपयुक्त समाधान करना चाहिए , बहुत बार पति पत्नी भावनाओ में बहकर और दूसरों की बातों में आकर झगड़ लेते है और फिर आपस में बातें नहीं करते जिससे जीवन में तनाव  उत्पन्न होता है और जीवन नीरस हो जाता है।

- अधिकतर शादियों में  पति और पत्नी जीवन में पहली बार सेक्स करते है, और उनको सेक्स के बारे में बहुत अनुभव नहीं होता और वे एक दूसरों की भावनाओं की क़द्र नहीं करते, उनके लिए सेक्स सिर्फ बच्चे पैदा करने का तरीका है, वो एक दूसरों के शरीर की जरूरतों को नहीं समझते। पति और पत्नी को एक दुसरे से इस पर बात करनी चाहिए सेक्स के बारे में।  हो सके तो कुछ पत्रिकाएँ , किताबें इत्यादि भी पड़ना चाहिए। उनको पोर्न वेबसाइट ज्यादा नहीं देखनी चाहिए इस्सके बजाए उनको रोमांटिक फिल्म्स देखनी चाहिए और एक दूसरों की भावनाओं के साथ ही सेक्स करना चाहिए।

पति और पत्नी के रिश्ते शादी के एक साल बाद
पति और पत्नी के रिश्ते शादी के एक साल बाद  

शादी एक बहुत अनोखा बंधन है और ये बंधन एक ही व्यक्ति के साथ होता है, इसमें बोरियत होना बहुत स्वाभाविक है इससलिए पति और  पत्नी ये दोनों की जिम्मेदारी है की इससमे रूचि बनाए रखें और नए नए तरीके खोजते रहे एक दुसरे को रिझाने के लिए जिससे शादी में नयापन मौजूद रहे.

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Understand your spouse feeling and then react

There is one famous saying that if there are utensils , there will be sound. That holds true in a relationship also. Relationship is about two people of different background, thought process, culture, bringing up. So there are chances of opinion clashes between the two leading to hot arguments.
Here I want to say that in a relationship, the way to be happy is to react only after understanding the feelings of your spouse and respecting those feelings.
We all have our own point of view and if we try to understand others point of view than chances of arguments will be less. If reaction comes after understanding the others point, probability to accept or to get accepted will be high and it will finally lead to happy life which we all want.
Little arguments, fights and what we call ladai jhakde are common in relationships but if their intensity is high, it will lead to clashes and ultimately leads to divorce. These clashes or divorces are result of not proper understanding of feelings of each other. If you give proper chance to get real feeling behind communication, clashes will be less. Nobody wants to fight without a reason.Think over it.........

So, respect, understand others feeling before reacting..kehte hai na soch samajh ke bol ;)
Love life ...live Life!!!

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Is suhagraat that day?

Desires to get one and anxiety levels are high on that day. Man is bit nervous but he wants to show his power and get it done. But generally woman are nervous and have lot of things running in mind on that special day called suhagrat.(I am talking about man and woman who are virgins hehe)
Suhagrat should be the day which man and woman should get close, try to get over their shyness and develop  bonding for lifetime by cuddling, kissing, hugging and may be intercourse but doing sex should not be a binding.
She is your wife for lifetime, so forcing her for sex may develop more nervousness and ultimately a fear in her mind. And forced sex is not satisfying and enjoyable.
So try to live every moment of your suhagrat cracking jokes, remembering the intimate moments during courtship, caring, kissing and gradually come close.
I tell u if you give ample time to get that close to her, the love between both of you will be very strong. And sex will definitely be better.
You should share your feeling about each other, your likings and disliking, praising each other, pampering. These activities will help you building bond for lifetime. 

Live your suhagrat.. It is day to become one soul, physically you can become one anyday (that day or any other day) that should not be the goal.
Love life... Live life!!!

8 tips that will drive your spouse crazy on bed

If your partner gets crazy on bed, imagine how exciting and satisfying those moments can be. Intercourse can be done at any time but satisfying Intercourse has all together different meaning to all of us.
Let me share some tips that will drive your spouse crazy and then imagine what fun can be to fuck a naughty cat... 

Tip 1: Touch her all over her body, tickle her: Move your fingers all over her body especially on her thighs, her belly button, behind her ears, on her lips... Believe me she will start getting crazy and will try to respond touching your part.
Tip 2: Kiss her all over: Kiss her everywhere starting from forehead, her eyes, nose tip, tight passionate long kiss on her lips, behind her ears, on her neck, her breasts, her belly button, her part, thighs, toes everywhere. She will get crazy and might kiss you too all over including your part. Initiate and try to make her as crazy as you can.
Kisses have magic.. Believe me..
Tip 3 :Nuzzle her: You may use your tongue, fingers or whatever.. This will definitely gonna make her scream like cat..
Tip 4:Do dirty naughty talking :Dirty bindass talking in Hindi or English can drive your spouse crazy. Men love using those words, women loves listening and if she gets over her shyness she might respond too. This can be like adding cherry to cake. Describe what you are doing and try kissing in between to increase the intensity
Tip5: Caress her thighs : Touch on thighs arouses women and make her wet. Roll your fingers on thighs, tickle it and even kiss there..
Tip 6:Give a gentle massage or rub her:Massaging or rubbing leads to intense touch and generation of heat leading to increase in desire to have sex.
Tip7: Play with her breasts: Playing with nipples and breasts of your cat can make her wild to the level even you cannot imagine. Kiss her on breasts as they are very sensitive, lick them, squeeze them and see the magic..
Tip 8: Take your and your spouses clothes off: Foreplaying and taking off the clothes can add you both to fire. These intense moves can change set stage on fire.
Love life...live life!!!

Importance of foreplay during intense moments

Sexual desires of man are higher than woman and generally man feel satisfied in having intercourse. Women also have internal desires for sex and intercourse but they need to get a boost.
Women love spending some intimate moments with the spouse before having intercourse to have higher level of satisfaction.
Foreplay plays unique role over here as it arouses the feeling to have intercourse and give ultimate satisfaction. Man should play with their girl by kissing her, playing with her body, hugging her, cuddling, smooching, love bites etc.
This will arouse their partner and even man will get higher level of satisfaction if they get into intercourse with aroused partner.

She will be naughty, she will play with your  parts if aroused leading to ultimate satisfaction
So always try to live the moment whether it is having sex or anything. Enjoy foreplay and ultimately it will lead to higher level of satisfaction for you both.
Trust me.. Try it❤️
You will find wonders...I tell you Girls are very naughty from inside.. You need to arouse them and help them get over their shyness.
Love life... Live life!!!

4 Golden rules for happy life

Relationship, love, bonding are all mutual and how stronger they are happier is the life. 4 Simple rules in life make it worth living and enjoying....
Rule1: Without communication, there is no relationship
Rule2: Without respect, there is no love
Rule3:Without trust, there is no reason to continue
Rule4: Without fun, there is no strong bond

Love life.. Live life!!!

Keeping karwa chauth fast: Do age of husband is linked with it?

Keeping fast of karwa chauth is a tradition followed in Hindu society. It is a day when married women dress up like like bride and fast whole day for the long life of husband and in evening eat food after praying to moon.
Question arises how essential is to keep fast. If we keep the tradition and ritual apart, we know it is not essential and neither husband's life is linked to it.
So the next question is why should we fast then, I simply put here life is all about happiness and care for each other. If this ritual bring happiness to your life and you make your husband feel special and show him that you care for him, then why not keep it.
This happiness will definitely boost up your relationship and you both will live long healthy life. Isn't it???

Also, it is a day you dress up, feel special and remember the early days of how you used to dress if your marriage is long time now. So enjoy the importance of day and live the day...
Love life... Live life!!!

How important is dating after 7 years of marriage

Life becomes a routine as time pass by. Regular household chores, taking care of kids, office and home becomes priority and we generally don't have time for each other. This leads to frustration and stress in relationships.
We all want to hang around with each other and spend time hand in hand with our partner. It is internal desire whether we accept it or not. Dating can play a major role here. We need to take out time for each other. 
It is not necessary going out for dating is important, basically important is to be together hand in hand, hugging, kissing , cuddling. Dating relieves stress and lays foundation for happy life. Never feel you are old, what kids will say? Leave all these worries as you are mature enough to handle it.
Try to feel young as you are young. Try to live life like at courtship time or at time just after marriage.
Go for a walk, long drive, listen to romantic music, read romantic books , watch romantic movies, go for outing and date with your spouse. Look in each other eyes, sing for each other, dance together,
hug, kiss, cuddle, foreplay and have sex , seriously speaking this will do wonders to your life.
Take out time at least once in a month or every fortnight and try to live your life.
Date with your spouse and do lots and lots of pampering.....Then see the magic 
Love life ...Live life !!!
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How important is having sex in married life?

Both men and women have sexual desires. But due to circumstances which may be kids, work pressure, distances, shifts, fatique..they try to ignore it and donot give priority to it.
But sex is like flower which adds fragrance to relationship. Both men and women inspite of their hectic life should take out time for each other and respect each other's desires.
One should not make sex a routine or monotonous job but you should enjoy it, Live it, cherish it for a happy stressfree relation. Foreplay is equally important.
Take out time for each other. Go for dates, have candle light dinner, dance together, sing together, play with each other and also have sex..you will have a healthy life which is essential in this fast world.

Sex medically also relieves stress and burn calories and keep you young so is essential.
Hope you liked my point of view. Let's discuss it in comment section. Even you can drop a mail on ratirai.lifeguru@gmail.com
Love life.. Live life!!!

Divorce: why the number is rising?

Cases of divorce are increasing because of ego clashes, closed mind, not open to communicate and not having solution oriented approach.
If there are commitment issues i. e. having girlfriend or boy friend then divorce is justified and perhaps the right solution.
But if issues are due to interference of other family members, work pressure, office home balance, kids bringing up, having kids, difference in opinions etc etc, then all of these have solution provided that you are ready to arrive at solution.

Talking to each other without blaming and mutually arriving at solution will lead to a happy life. Think over it.. Do i make sense?樂樂
Love life.. Live life!!!
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Arrange marriage is better or love marriage?

Marriages whether arrange or love are both equally good provided that the thought process of both boy and girl is clear and they are committed to each other. They both are open to communicate and dont let their ego develop clashes between them.
One is not living in isolation so problems will be there but if you are ready to talk to each other and have solution oriented approach most of problems will away.
Marriage is a journey where committment for each other plays the most important role. Love will grow if you will respect each other and think from others point of view also.
So, talk freely with your spouse, you will have happy life whether your marriage is arranged or love. 
Live you life.. ❤️❤️❤️

Love life live life!!!
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How important is getting married in life?

We all have heard about a famous saying shaadi ka ladoo:jo khaye wo pachtaaye jo na khaye wo bhi pachtaaye.. This saying is true in a sense that there are hundred of challenges one faces after getting married whether it is from point of view of girl or boy. Challenges are faced by both. Boys generally loose their freedom, have to maintain disciplined life and have to maintain balance between friends, family and wife which is typical of all. Financially also challenges are there if partner is not working. Above all, developing understanding or similar thought process is the biggest challenge as now you cannot take decision yourself.
On the other hand girls face another type of challenge  i.e. maintaining work home balance if working and if a home maker she has a new family to cope with.
Emotional, social, physical and financial Challenges are for both boys and girls if they get married but have you imagine a life without marriage.
Everything seems good till age of 30 but once you are 30+ you start feeling lonely.Mostly your friends and cousins have got married. In social gattering, you find yourself alone.
Emotionally, You need someone to share your feelings as age increases and also you want someone to take care of you and someone whom you can take care of as everyone else is busy with their spouses whether they are your parents or friends.
Financially also you are earning good by now and basic needs are no more challenge for you now. You might be living luxurious life. You might be going out for tours, here you need someone with whom you can spend your free time, go for walk, talk for hours etc
To be precise, at an age you are isolated and you need someone to fill that isolation in all dimensions whether physically or emotionally.
I agree there will be challenges but why to be afraid of challenges.. Accept them. Be mature in your thought process and shaadi ka ladoo jaldi se khayo aur enjoy karo.... 

So getting married is essential but the point which is most essential is how to get good life partner???
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अपनी शादी को खुशहाल रखने के आसान तरीके - पत्नियां जरूर पड़ें

जैसे ही शादी के बाद की जिंदगी शुरू होती है सब कुछ बदल जाता है, गुलाबी सा जीवन अचानक से नीला हो जाता है. आदमी अपने रोजमर्रा के रूटीन जीवन में आ जाता है और शुरू होता है पति पत्नी का इम्तिहान की कैसे वो अपने जीवन की गाडी को आगे बढ़ाते है. शादी के तुरंत बाद सब कुछ बहुत अच्छा लगता है हर समय रोमांस, सेक्स , घूमना फिरना चलता रहता है. पति भी पत्नी का पूरा ध्यान रहता है क्योंकि वो  पत्नी दुसरे घर से आती है और सब लोग उसको परिवार में घुलने मिलने का समय देते है और पत्नी पर बहुत दवाब नहीं डालते। जैसे जैसे समय बीतता है सब सामान्य होता जाता है और शुरुआत के दिनों का रूमानीपन ख़त्म होता जाता है। रोजमर्रा के काम शुरू हो जाते है, पति भी अपने कार्यो में व्यस्त हो जाता है, घर वाले भी अपनी बहु से बहुत सी अपेक्षाएं  रखते है और शुरू होती है एक बहु की जिंदगी जो की पत्नी की जिंदगी से बिलकुल अलग है।    

पत्नी की अपेक्षा यही रहती है की पति आए ऑफिस से और पत्नी को सभी कार्यों में मदद करे, अगर वो नहीं करता तो पत्नी को लगता है अब पति को उसकी क़द्र नहीं है और शुरु होते है पति पत्नी के मशहूर झगडे जो की पूरी दुनिया में मशहूर है। यही पर शुरू होता है एक समझदार पति पत्नी का आपसी बातचीत का तरीका जिससे झगडे ना हो। 

क्या हम सही कह रहे है, क्या आप सभी के साथ भी ऐसा ही हो रहा है...  ?? कमेंट में अपना अनुभव/प्रश्न लिखे।  

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Ways to keep your married life right on track:A must read for wife

जब बच्चे होने वाला होता है तब बहुत बार पत्नियां अपनी जॉब छोड़ देती  है, और शुरू होता है एक ऐसा समय शुरू होता है जब पत्नियों को लगता है की जैसे पति बहुत ही बुरा व्यक्ति है, उसकी छोटी छोटी बातें चुभने लगती है, पति की छोटी छोटी आदतें जो पत्नी को पहले अच्छी लगती थी वो अब चुभने लगती है, पत्निया अपनी मर्जी से जॉब छोड़ती है अपने परिवार और अपने बच्चो के लिए।  पत्निया अधिकतर समय घर के कामों में बिताती है और उसको अपने लिए कुछ भी समय नहीं मिल पाता।

पर आपने कभी सोचा है, इसमें बेचारे पति का क्या कसूर है, जीवन में ऐसा ही होता है, भगवान ने ऐसा  ही बनया है और बच्चे को माँ ही चाहिए होती है, हर समय की चिक चिक और बुराई करने से कुछ नहीं होगा।   इस सबसे आपके जीवन में तनाव बढ़ेगा, छोटी छोटी बातो पर झगडे होने लगेंगे, और आपको ऐसा लगेगा की जीवन वास्तव में बहुत बड़ी समस्या है और आप हर समय तनाव में रहेंगे।  मानसिक रोग आपको जकड लेगा और आपको बहुत सी बीमारिया, मानसिक तनाव चारों तरफ से घेर लेगा और ये आपकी और आपके परिवार का जीवन तबाह कर देगा।

सोचिए जरा सोचिए इस बारे में,

मुझे ये पता है की ये सभी के साथ होता है और इसमें आपकी गलती नहीं है, पर आप दोनों मिलकर ही इस समस्या को सुलझा सकते है।  मैं आपको कुछ बातें बताती हु जो आपके जीवन में खुशिया ला सकते है

- आपस में बात करें पर झगड़ा ख़त्म होने के बाद।  जिस समय झगड़ा हो तो दुसरे पार्टनर को शांत रहना चाहिए। उस समय झगड़ने वाले पर भूत सवार होता है और सामने वाला उससे दुनिया का सबसे बुरा व्यक्ति लगता है, उस समय आप शांत रहे और जो भी वो बोले वो सुन ले।  क्यूंकि आप कुछ बोलोगे तो वो उससे ज्यादा बोलेगा, ऐसे ऐसे बातें बोलेगा की आप को भी गुस्सा आएगा और ये छोटी सी बात जो सिर्फ केवल ये हो सकती है की पति १० मिनट ऑफिस से लेट आया या पत्नी ने कुछ सामान मंगाया और पति भूल गया या फिर खाने में नमक ज्यादा था या फिर सासु में ना कुछ कह दिया ये झगड़ा माँ बाप, भाई बहन और पता नहीं कहाँ कहाँ पहुँच जाता है... इससलिए शांत रहे और झगडा ना बड़े ये ध्यान रखे.. जब शान्ति हो तभी बात करें

- आप एक दुसरे को समझने की कोशिश करें , पति ये समझे की पत्नी का जीवन एक दायरे में सीमित हो गया है और उसको कुछ अपने लिए समय की आवश्यकता है, चीजों को सँभालने की आवश्यकता है, पति और पत्नी दोनों को ही इस्सके लिए समाधान निकलना पड़ेगा।

- एक दुसरे के साथ अधिक से अधिक समय बिताने के मौके आपको निकलने पड़ेंगे , कभी इस्सके लिए छुट्टी लो ऑफिस से , कभी शाम में वाक कर लो, कभी बाहर चाट खा ली, और भी मौके जो जल्दी जल्दी हो,

- एक दुसरे को बीच बीच में याद दिलाओ की दूसरा आपके लिए जरूरी है, आप लोग एक दुसरे  की कितनी क़द्र करते है।

- ये हमेशा याद रखें की सभी हम मनुष्य है और हमारी एनर्जी की एक सीमा है जो वक्त के साथ ख़त्म हो जाती  है

-+love, patipatni,relationship
Ways to keep your married life right on track:A must read for wife

- अपनी मानसिकता थोड़ी बदले और घर के काम , खाना खाना, घर की वस्तुए से ज्यादा अपने रिश्ते को महत्त्व दे, बाकी चीजे तो आती जाती रहेंगी पर बीता हुआ वक्त कभी नहीं आएगा

- अपने सेक्स जीवन में भी रूचि बनाए रखे और उस्सको रूटीन टास्क से ज्यादा सोचे , एक दुसरे को रोमांस करें , फ़्लर्ट करे , किस करें और कुछ नया करने की कोशिश करें।

थोड़ा सा सकारात्मक सोच आपके जीवन में पूरा परिवतर्न ला सकती है, थोड़ी सी नकारात्मक सोच जीवन को अन्धकार में धकेल देती है जिसका कोई अंत नहीं होता।  सचाई यही है की जीवन पति पत्नी दोनों से चालता है किसी भी एक का कोई  अस्तित्व नहीं है दोनों मिलकर ही पूर्ण होते है।  इससलिए अगर हम पुराणों को भी देखे तो सभी भगवन अपनी पत्नियों के साथ दीखते है, वो यही सदेंश देते है की जीवन मतलब पति और पत्नी।

इसलिए जीवन को भरपूर जिए और एक दुसरे का सम्मान करे , एक दुसरे की अच्छी बातो की तारीफ करें , एक दुसरे की गलत आदतों का जिक्र करें और उसस्के दूर करने का प्रयास करें उसको इशू ना बनाईं। ..

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